Thanks for the LinkedIn Invite…Who are you?
Posted by Molly Wendell // in NetworkingPeople I Meet
I just received another one. Another LinkedIn invitation from someone, and I don’t have a clue who he is. This happens a lot. I’m not certain what prompts these strangers to invite me to their network. I’m not certain why people I’ve barely said boo to want me in their network. I know I don’t want them in mine! Maybe there’s a prize for the most connections. I must’ve missed the memo.
Don’t get me wrong. LinkedIn is a great tool. And if used with some level of responsibility and restraint, it can be very effective. But after far too many invites from complete strangers, I developed some connection guidelines (okay, rules!). I’m going to share them with you – because you just may want to develop some of your own.
Did you sit in a meeting with me along with forty other people once about 3 years ago (or 3 weeks ago)? And with that incredible lack of one-on-one interaction you want to connect with me? I’m going to defer on this one to see if we ever actually have a meaningful conversation. Until then…No Connection For You!
Did we work at the same company in a completely separate division and never ever meet ever (or the same university)? Terrific! I guess we have something in common. No Connection For You!
Do you know someone that I know? Congratulations. No Connection For You!
Have you heard I run a group? Great. Become an integral, meaningful part of it – assuming you fit the criteria. Until then…No Connection For You!
Do you put your email address in your LinkedIn Name? Good for you. Even if you are my friend, I don’t want to connect with you. By putting your email address in your name, you’re telling everyone that you’ll connect with anyone. Therefore, your connections are not authentic. The other day, a friend asked for a referral to someone they found – a 2nd degree connection from me. I checked my LinkedIn connections and figured out this person was connected to someone I know that connects with anyone. Therefore, all of his connections are suspect (including mine I guess). I would NEVER refer this person (or anyone connected to him) to anyone. No Connection for You!
Have I known you for less than 90 days? Quite possibly…No Connection For You! A while back, I developed the 90 day grace period for accepting invitations. This gives me a little more comfort that you’re not some fly-by-night, one-meeting wonder.
Did we just meet on an airplane and have a really interesting conversation for two hours and I think you’re fascinating? You know what? I’ll probably connect with you, and hope that we sit next to each other again one day. But until then, I know we’ll stay in touch.
Are you a friend of mine from school, work or another activity (and I actually know who you are)? I’d love to re-connect with you. And thanks to LinkedIn for making it possible!
I pride myself in being authentic. I want my LinkedIn network to reflect my level of authenticity. When someone asks me about someone in my network, I want to know this person by name and face. I want to be able to say great things about them. All of these things are possible only if I actually know the people. So, if I don’t know you – please don’t invite me into your LinkedIn network. And guess what? I’ll try not to invite you to mine!